Bad Texter? Or is he not that into you…?

Are you in the early stages of dating someone and feeling anxious or frustrated that they're not texting or calling you as much as you want? 

It's hard to tell someone to communicate with you more when you've just met them or only been on one date. 

And it's not fair to ask someone to prioritize you when they don't know you well yet, and they have other things going on in their lives.

Over time, however, communication should build, and there should be a sense of progress and momentum. If there's no progress, that's a red flag.

When it comes to communication, inconsistency & scarcity are two different things to consider. 

Inconsistency is when someone's communication is all over the place, and they're not making an effort to talk to you regularly. 

Scarcity is when you're not getting as much communication as you want. 💬

The amount of communication in a relationship is subjective and depends on each person's needs.

It's important to get clear on your need for closeness and how connected you feel to the person when you're not together.

If you feel like you're not connected, then there's a problem of closeness. 💔

It's not helpful to get into debates about texting or phone calls. Instead, focus on the fundamental conversation about your need for closeness.

Don't get bogged down in the details of the medium. 🙅‍♀️